The loss of a relationship can be one of the most devastating things a person faces in life.  You may feel like you're on an emotional rollercoaster, fine one minute and at the end of your rope the next.  If you're the one who left, you may feel guilty about your decision.  If you're the one left behind, you may feel anger, sadness, or a variety of other negative emotions.  Or...you may feel a sense of relief! 

Whatever your position, you're likely to feel somewhat off-balance and uncertain about the future.  It's natural to want to know exactly what to expect and how long it will last.  Grief is a normal reaction to the loss of your relationship.  Scores of books and articles have been written on the stages one can expect to go through when experiencing separation or divorce.  It can be helpful to know that most people will experience similar reactions to this type of loss.  However, there are no set rules.  The way we experience ours is as individual as our own situations, and not everyone goes through all the stages, or goes through them in any particular order.  What is important to remember is that they are in fact stages, meaning you can and will move past them.

Your situation may not be under your control, but how you choose to react to it most definitely is.  Rather than getting mired down in negativity, it's a good idea to consider your options and keep yourself focused in a positive direction. Eventually your pain will lessen, and you'll be able to shift your focus from blame or guilt to what comes next. Your new life is out there...make it a great one!  If you're not sure how, my six week coaching program can help get you on the right track.

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